I Believe an Introduction is in Order.

Gentlemen. Ladies. Welcome to A Single Man's Diary. You can call me Duke. This diary will only be posted on by your's truly with 100% genuine stories about my interactions or observations with the opposite sex, unless told otherwise. Some of what you may read will be of sexual nature, and possibly offensive. If you feel you have to comment, go right ahead, what's done is done. I will also give you suggestions of what I have learned from my many dealings with women. All the people mentioned will be given aliases to keep their identities secret. I will post a different case (my interactions with a specific woman) at least once a month, and will start from the beginning. These cases will not necessarily be in order of when they occurred, but I'll do my best. Since some of the subjects of cases appear in the recalling of other cases, I may use different aliases in different cases, but I will never use the same alias for two different subjects. When referring to a subject's "best friend" I will use the name Diamond. When referring to a subject's "ex" I will use the name Squid. I hope you enjoy your stay, and return back soon.

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

The girl at the coffee shop

Alright, this is more of a discussional piece. If you are sitting in a café, and make eye contact with a girl you think you fancy, do you approach her?  What do you say? Well chances are if she is alone she is either waiting for someone, or has major anti-social tendencies, or is studying and doesn’t want to be bothered. If we break down each situation to basic facts, we will be able to determine whether or not to approach.

Situation 1, she is waiting for someone. This “someone” could be anyone from a date, to a family member, to a friend. If she looks impatient don’t approach. This usually means that this impatience is due to the fact that the lateness of who she is meeting is definitely unintended. If it were a friend, chance are she would have got a message from them, or would be used to this person being late. Same principle could be applied if it were a family member. The fact she is outwardly portraying this impatience it means that either it’s important to her that this person was there, or that it is a date. Therefore impatience is a bad thing. Plus if you notice she comes in, sits down, without a drink and waits, it means she is waiting for someone. If she gets a drink after sitting alone for some time, it means this person is late, you could always use the opportunity to approach her, once you have defined the fact she is not going to wait for that person to get her drink.

Situation 2, if she does have major anti-social tendencies it becomes a attempt at your own risk. She’ll either like you or not. Once you approach it becomes her move, and you can just hope for the best.

Situation 3, if she’s studying/working find a good reason to bug her. It can be a dumb, but good reason. For example, does she mind sharing the outlet she is using for her laptop, you get the picture right? It will be up to you entirely to get the conversational ball rolling, because she could really careless to talk to you on the fact she’s busy, but if you can get the ball rolling your pretty much in the clear.

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